Seeing old friend

Have you seen that old pics -challenge in Facebook? That one where you should dig out some pictures from 15 years back.

I'm not saying you should do it (I didn't actually), but I would strongly suggest you to find those old pictures just to watch and see.

I do this about once a year, I just look at old photos where I  am with friends and family. Those are just heartwarming!

But there's another catch. How many of those people you don't see anymore? You used to be besties, and now you haven't seen in like ten years?

Maybe it would be a good time to give your friend a call just to ask how is he/she doing?
If you don't have a phone number, you probably can find it from call service, or try to find that friend from Facebook/Twitter.. I'm pretty sure you could find that person somehow.

Just hearing an old friends voice is a great thing but if you actually can manage to see each other.. Wow! That would be just great, wouldn't it?

What you got to lose? You can see a long term friend, find out how he/she is, you get to socialize yourself and talk to someone who probably is really interested to hear how are you doing.
You'll be surprised to hear how much good you have in your life when you talk about them aloud.
And when you talk about them - someone is really interested and hopes good for you, you'll get a new boost to do what you love.

Like me, when I'm writing. There is moments when this feels more of work than a hobby, but when new people see my blog and my writings, or I talk about them to my old friends, they are thrilled about this and tells me that I do a wonderful job. And I get a new boost to write more and more and more.

Today, as I post this, it's saturday. You probably have plenty of time to take that call.
There's no downside. Just do it.

TOP 5 things to do to get into better mood

So most of my writings lately has been a bit dark shaded so lets do something brighter today!

There is no ultimate right thing to do, but these work great for me! And if these doesn't work for you maybe you will find out what's your "better day"-motivators!

1. Watch your favorite show at least 3 episodes

Yes, I really mean this. My favorite one is The Simpons, I can't watch it without laughing out loud - and what's better way to get to better mood than laughing?! :) Three episodes because one is not enough, two makes you want more and when you start third one you can promise to yourself "this is the last one" . ;)

2. Change your sofas place

Or re-organize those books. Or go trought your wardrope. Just change something you see daily, it really cheers you up a little!

3. Call your bestfriend

..And talk about something stupid. Something dorky and idiot that you've done some day.

4. Take a nap

Feeling crancy? Sleep for a while.

5. Eat something really good

I mean ... REALLY good. When I feel like this, I usually pick up a donut and special coffee (cappuchino .. mmm...).

So this is my top 5 about getting to a better mood! Oh, and one extra. SMILE. Look in the mirror and SMILE.
You are special.
You are worth it.


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Alcohol is one devil

Going with the theme with last post.. Healthy. But this time it's alcohol.

YEEEP, the easiest way to try to forget all of those nasty things in your day (or week), go have some fun with friends and drink a lot of booze.
And if you're really in to it deep, you don't even need your friends, you'll just stay home - alone - and think about your miserable life and everyone who "really really hates you".

Then at the certain point you just take your phone, call them all f**krs, tell them how much you hate them because "I'm so sure you hate me too". Text your ex-girlfriend/boyfriend and beg her/him take you back.

So.. How did it go?

The very next day when you wake up from your couch, you can't just stop thinking about all those phone calls and text messages you did. You moralize yourself to be the bad person in your life, and you don't have a meaning. Sounds familiar? Or if not, do you know someone who is like this?

Here's something to read for both of you.

 The person who does this, is usually somewhat depressed or really stressed out from work/relationship/something in his/hers life. That person really don't see those good things in life, even if he/she wants to.

There's always something in other persons life, that you can't know about. Respect it. (Tweet it) 

 That person also don't necessary notice his/hers acting and for that reason acts like an .. well, you know.

When reading this, if you can identify yourself, maybe you should stop for a while, just take some deep breaths and consider changing your way of life.

Because, alcohol really isn't the answer to your problems. More like probably making some new ones on the way.
When drinking even one beer, your body goes in to certain kind of mode, and just a one night sleep doesn't really fix it. It takes couple of nights to get your body back to normal mode after just one beer.
Don't believe me? Try it. Be sober for a week, and then tell me are you..
..thinking more of what ever you are doing
..smiling more
..waking up easier
..more productive than earlier
..less anxious about things you normally would have been really stressed out

I can tell this, because I've been there the worst way. I'm not saying I have totally left alcohol out of my life, but I have decreased it a lot because I saw what it did to me.
I'm not as much tired as I used to be, I have more power to do my work and I feel healthier. And if you feel healthier, it totally helps you to be more positive in life. And think about those positive things and do all those lists and act more kind to people - and TO YOURSELF.
One of the best things I noticed, was that I was "losing" all those friends who wasted their life only to party and drink. We're adulds, so I personally think that we should be able to see our friends without some kind of excuse, just to say hi. But, as I was losing those who didn't want to see me without drinking, I was getting new friends who appreciated my new lifestyle. And I'm so much happier now.

Are you the friend who gets those calls? What ever you do, don't remind that broken person about those calls or texts. It only takes him/her deeper in mud because he/she is already hating himself about those, and your not helping when bringing those back to table.
What you can do, you can be a friend. Call or text for some other reason. Ask to go out for a movie, cup of coffee, to shopping.. Anything that could cheer up your friends mind.
On weekends, ask your friend to come to eat or do something fun without alcohol.
The first couple of months at least, don't talk about the alcohol issue. Because probably your friend is going to go on denial, and never answer your phone calls again and he/she is back in mud.. I know this sounds hard friendship, but trust me, that person will thank you for saving his/hers life.

Your friends isn't an a-hole on purpose. He/She doesn't just see the better life yet. Show it to him/her.

So this came out a bit long post, and I just wrote from my heart but I hope that I reached even one person with this.
If you have a problem, it's time to change.
If you have a friend with an issue, help him.


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You can do it!

Sometimes there's just days that you can't get yourself up. You just lie in your bed thinking, that everything you have done is wrong and you are worthless.

No you're not.

Whatever it is what you're suppose to do, just DO it. Just get up on your feet, and start doing!

There's no one else in this world that could do them for you, so just do them yourself! If you don't know where to start, make a list.

Make a list about those tasks that you need to do to get to your goal. What is those steps to do to get to the grand price? Maybe it's calling to that long term friend, maybe it's starting running.. Whatever those things are, write them down.

Put the list somewhere where you can see it every day. In fridge door, toilet mirror, bedroom .. You name it.

Then just start doing. What is the first thing to do? Do it. Reward yourself for doing it. Because your AWESOME for doing something that you are not used to do!

Then do the second thing. And third. If you can't do these things in one day, it's ok. Some things just need more time, but if those tasks are easy (like cleaning the whole house), it's better to do them right now.

You CAN do it! You CAN manage your life, you CAN reach your goals, you CAN BE THE BEST. (tweet it!)

Now start doing!

Motivating videos

There's a lot of ways to motivate yourself (including this blog), and I like to use all of them as a piece of my own path to success.

One of them is YouTube. Yes, I open YouTube and look for motivation videos, empowering people, great leaders... You name it!

And you don't even need to watch those videos. You can just push play button, hit those boomboxen loud and start doing something you would normally do. Like I listen to these as I do my makeup.

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That big dream

As I started to do those little thing what I mentioned on my earlier post I began to feel more positive and more focused on aiming my life to a certain path.

What's your big dream? Think about it for a while.

What have you done to get to that dream of yours?

What should you do to get to that dream of yours?

Your dream can be small or big - we all have both of them. But for now, pick up that one witch you think you can have in next 6 months.

Write it down on a piece of paper, and put that paper somewhere where you see it every day (wallet etc.). Now every time you see it, you will selfconstantly start to think about that aim of yours, and what's best, you start to act like you already have it and/or will get it.

See my point here?

Write your dreams down, so you can visualize it and start doing things to get it.


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4 points you should know to be a positive person

So now you know something about me and my past. I know you're probably wondering "wheres the tips?"

Don't worry, I'll give them to you one by one. OR as a list (like now.)

So when I was struggling with my life and was trying to think some ways to help my husband (and me on the side) to be better persons, I started to read.

1. Read a lot

I went to these conventions and happenings where every successful person kept saying "Readers are leaders." So, I started to read. A lot.

First it doesn't matter what you read, it's more of the idea of reading. Well of course if you just read Cosmopolitan or Donald Duck or something like that it won't help you but if you concentrate to some good novelty or what's even better, for life changing books, I bet you feel better.
Me for example, I find Stephen Kings books good to read. They are fiction, but they're wrote in good way and I need to use my brains as I read. (So thanks, Stephen!)

2. Think positive

If you are a negative person, negative things will happen to you. That's just a thing that no one can deny. And if you think you can.. Maybe it's time for you to change your point of view?

So in the morning when I wake up, my first thought is "This day will be awesome!" It usually is.

  3. Take time to yourself

I usually take 1 hour in the morning for my self to think what should I do next. Do this as you think it would be easiest for you. It can be a wakeup 1 hour earlier than normally so your family is still a sleep. I usually do some lists about "tasks for today" or "what things should change".
PS. I will do a post about these things separately.

4. Enjoy those little things

Yes, I know it's a cliché, BUT.. Think it this way; "Oh what a horrible morning, I overslept like ten minutes and now I can't brew coffee at home and now I need to go to ** to eat my breakfast..." OR "So ok, I overslept today for 10minutes and YES , it's time for my FAVORITE latte for that cute little cafeteria! Ohh and maybe a bagel.."

Which one is you ? Which one you prefer?



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Be Positive

So first of all, I should probably tell something about me so you can see what kind of person is writing here.

I'm from Finland. Yes, that cold cold place where everyone is kind of grumpy and doesn't want to talk about anything else than "How's weather?". So it's pretty hard try to try to get someone on a good mood if she/he doesn't want to talk to you about anything.

You know the thrill where neighbors know "everything" about you, you know "everything" about them just by looking as how they live (via window of course). But, when you ask them directly.. Hah, I know. And this isn't really positive, right?

So I moved to other city couples of years ago along with my fiance. We're talking about a lot of miles between my current living spot and my hometown so I was a bit scared. At that point I still was very positive about getting new friends and getting a new beginning in this new town.. So I started to look for job in this new place and got one. Yeah!

But what did my friends do when I told them? Almost all said "This will never work" "I'll give that a year and then she's back" "Why would anyone be that stupid?" "Well good luck for you trying to survive there..."

Like WHAT? Well needless to say, I wasn't really positive after that. I was actually very depressed to move, as I did not have any friends here and all my hometown friends were like that.

So those couple of years went, I got some friends from here but mostly all of them turned their back on me. You know that moment, when you meet someone and you're both like "oh I hate this city I have no friends let's be friends!" and after a while you realize the reason he/she didn't have friends was because he/she is a moron, and nobody warned you before hands. Yeaaap, and multiply that like thousand times and you have my life story. People even tried to get me and my husband not to get married!

So I was a blanket. That person who always was there to loan money, help out ect.. But just because I  was craving for attention clearly by the wrong way.

So I got really depressed. I stayed only in home. Nothing more. I didn't want to get out of that door. My husbands work obligates him to be a lot away from home, so instead of going to market to get some food, I just tried to survive with some leftovers and macaronis from cabinets. Obviously, this isn't a way of life.

Well couple of years went like that and then this sense came back to my head. I need to do something.
Remember earlier as I told my long term friend called me?
He lives in my home town. Well as I had that thinking stick to my head, that I don't need anyone from my before life, it isn't too hard to realize why I didn't want to work with him or why didn't I believe in myself.

But this is true, he was mine - ours - turning point.

Well I didn't start to work with him - yet - but my husband did. And as they started to do business and I stood by my husband (of course) I realized how sad this person felt. This person who I love with all my heart, with my own depression I didn't realize he's so deep in it.

So the turning point? Yes, positive people. But also, I wanted to help my husband. I wanted him to success on what ever he's going to do. And if I'm negative, he will be negative, and it won't work.

So, lesson today;

BE POSITIVE, SO POSITIVE THINGS CAN HAPPEN TO YOU.

YOU CAN DO IT!

I know how hard it is to stick to being motivated, as I had some setbacks in my life too.

So lately I have been thinking that what should I do to be happier, to be successful, to provide good future to my family.

As I had been really thinking this for a long time, I mean for a REALLY long time.. It was about a time to something really happen. So what happened that made me think this?

I met my long term friend for a cup of coffee. He offered me a job, but I didn't take it. I needed it, but I didn't take it. Why? Because I was so negative by the time. I only thought, that I will never success or I will lose my money, time, husband.. Time wasn't right for me to do business with this guy.

Well, time passed and we didn't really connect. But one day he called again to ask me and my husband to meet him. So we went and he cooked some nice food for us (Spaghetti Bolognese btw, and it was GOOD.) and we talked about real things in life. Not about money, not about how unhealthy we feel.. Just some positive, nice things that has happened in our lives.

That was the turning point of my life.

I realized, that to be positive, I need to see positive people. I can't co-up with my life if the only people beside me is negative!

There started my journey to be a better, positive person, and that's the reason I started to write this blog.

This is one of my ways to help others to do the same.

I hope you will start to follow my roads to success and learn something yourself too. So please click subscribe and feel free to share this. :)