Seeing old friend

Have you seen that old pics -challenge in Facebook? That one where you should dig out some pictures from 15 years back.

I'm not saying you should do it (I didn't actually), but I would strongly suggest you to find those old pictures just to watch and see.

I do this about once a year, I just look at old photos where I  am with friends and family. Those are just heartwarming!

But there's another catch. How many of those people you don't see anymore? You used to be besties, and now you haven't seen in like ten years?

Maybe it would be a good time to give your friend a call just to ask how is he/she doing?
If you don't have a phone number, you probably can find it from call service, or try to find that friend from Facebook/Twitter.. I'm pretty sure you could find that person somehow.

Just hearing an old friends voice is a great thing but if you actually can manage to see each other.. Wow! That would be just great, wouldn't it?

What you got to lose? You can see a long term friend, find out how he/she is, you get to socialize yourself and talk to someone who probably is really interested to hear how are you doing.
You'll be surprised to hear how much good you have in your life when you talk about them aloud.
And when you talk about them - someone is really interested and hopes good for you, you'll get a new boost to do what you love.

Like me, when I'm writing. There is moments when this feels more of work than a hobby, but when new people see my blog and my writings, or I talk about them to my old friends, they are thrilled about this and tells me that I do a wonderful job. And I get a new boost to write more and more and more.

Today, as I post this, it's saturday. You probably have plenty of time to take that call.
There's no downside. Just do it.

5 things to be grateful -challenge

#GratitudeChallenge2015

Here Are The Rules:

• You have 72 hours to accept the challenge when you are nominated.

• Write or say 5 things you are grateful for on any social media platform (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Blog, or anywhere)

• Display a picture of gratitude. Any picture of something simple that makes (or made) you smile.

• Nominate 5 other people in your circle, but make sure to let them know immediately.

I took this from diyjahn.com  , just because I feel like these kind of things belongs to this blog. And this is suppose to be a little sneak a peek to what kind of thing you can be grateful. Yours can be really different from this one but it doesn't matter. What matters, is that you think of it.

So. Here it goes.

1. Husband.

This is something that I still can't understand; I found a yin to my yang, a person who REALLY loves me as I am. Even at my worst, like this weekend... I was too lazy to do even something to eat, and he did food for me.
Which takes me to...

2. Odd Finnish food.

I would never survive without Finnish salty liquorice or rye bread. (And I love those faces when someone who doesn't know what these are, tries them out.)

3. My lovely home

I have a roof over my head, it's warm inside, I have running water and no one has shut down our electricity. And actually, it's kind of pretty too.

4. Snow during winter

Ok, not yet, because as I told it has been way too long fall this year, but still I can't wait to see those first little snowflakes falling down to ground..

5. My best friends

The best of the best in category of my friends .. It's way too long distance between us. And it makes me cry sometimes, but when I see them, it's like heaven down on earth. And just having a little time with them takes me trough a lot of bad times and gives me strength. And actually I'm smiling right now, just thinking these loved ones of mine. YOU'RE THE BEST.

Be the one

So I'm a huge fan of The Simpsons. I mean a HUGE fan, I can't survive a day without even one The Simpsons episode.
Theres plenty of reasons why I love it, and one of them is the educational side. You can think what you want but really often there is a good message in episode.

Today I'm gonna talk about one particular episode where Bart and Lisa is going to military school (The secret war of Lisa Simpson).

So why this episode? Lisa want's to do something thats not normal in their world (keep in mind it's old episode), and even the principal of that school is a little against it ("Let me make this clear.. You're a girl?").
But still, she goes there and tries her best.

Even Bart turns his back for her for a while.. But here's the good side. The side that I wanted you to think. He came back for her, helped her and when he realized Lisa is really needing a good helping friend (brother), he stands up for her and encourages her to go thru that last task of theirs - the Eliminator.

In our own lives this "Eliminator" could be anything. Some job relied project, losing weight, quitting smoking.. Anything. And we need at least one person who can stand beside us.

Today as I watched that episode of The Simpsons, I thought that it looks like most of ours lives. Theres plenty of those people who will always be yelling "YOU'RE GONNA FAIL!" and just one or two who will be beside you. You just need to see them from the crowd.

And if you're that person, who sees someone who really needs some encourage, DO IT. Help that person to stand to his/hers own feet, and make that person feel LOVED. Good things happen to good people. Good things happen to good people, tweet it.

If you're the one who needs a friend, take a deep breath, think about those moments in past couple of months/days/years. Who has always been there, even if you didn't see it at the moment? Trust me, there's always someone who is beside you, even if you don't belive it.

YOU CAN DO IT.


Oh, and in case you haven't seen that particular episode or want to see a little sneek a peek to Lisas war, here's a clip.

How to get a positive morning routine

So, I live in Finland. Most of you guys probably know how is winter time in here (if you don't know, Google it).

It's so dark, cold and windy. And if fall is longer than normal (like this year) we don't even get snow to brighten our day. And that's the reason it's easy to get depressed, get some sick days from work and cry your eyes out aaaaaaaand the circle is done.

This in mind I have improved my daily routines to next level.

 Couple of these thing I have written earlier, but as I usually say, repetition is the mother of learning.

 First of all at the morning when I wake up I smile and tell to myself "This is going to be a great day!" . If I wake up before alarm, I think "Wow I got this much time more to do my morning routines" or if I oversleep a little I think "Well at least I got some sleep so I don't feel so tired."

Then when I have my first cup of coffee in my hands, I think of 5 things which I can be thankful for. It doesn't matter if you don't get five at first time (because you're probably a little unmotivated at the moment) but it's pretty great feeling when you realize that you can think of MORE than five! And that's progress let me tell you that! :)

And after some time (could be months, it depends on what's your starting point) you don't even have to think about thinking those things because you do it subconscious every morning.

You should start with this and when this starts to feel normal to you, you can start doing some other exercises too (which I will tell you later).

Because if you start your day positive, it usually will be positive till next morning.

So, starting from tomorrow. First thing in the morning, think positive, and be thankful for 5 things in your life.

What makes you negative?

When you're trying to make your life more positive, try to think about those things that makes it negative.

So for example, there's a friend you see weekly or read his/hers posts on Facebook, chat with him/her and every time he/she gets you upset. No matter what you try to say, everything is a "No." for him/her and he/she always finds a way to say something negative.
These guys usually are those friends of Facebook etc who only post negative comments on anyones status.
Ditch them. Or if you can't/won't totally throw them away from your life, at least hide them from your feed. Stop calling them, they usually get the point.

You really don't need those guys in your life! If they have nothing nice ever say to you, don't be with them! And usually these same guys are the ones who only call you when they need something, do you really want to be that guy who always gets called when money/favor are needed?

And, this really culminates to this.. BE POSITIVE. Why? Let me show you thru a picture.

So. Let's begin with that negative attitude of yours in upper left corner. You are negative, you attract negative people. And a human being is going to be just like his surrounding people are..
Try to be that positive person without changing anything else. Don't change your friends or anything, just be positive. Pretty tough, hu? Yes, I know. I tried.
The truth is, that if everyone who is surrounding you, is negative, you will be too. You can't escape it, if you won't change anything. 

BUT. When you are surrounded with positive people, you can be positive and you will encourage others on what they do! Well isn't that nice? Again; positive things happen to positive people. And thats straight way up.

Didn't yet delete that really negative person from Facebook? Do it now. Start your new positive life, step by step. Not sure about some of the people? Just hide them from your news feed.

It's kind of a small step, but it's something. If you dare, you can 'delete' some of those negative persons from your normal life too, like deleting numbers or just decide "I'm not going to call him/her, until he/she changes his/her attitude."

Simply clever! I can admit, that within first weeks I didn't delete anyones number. I just deleted couple of "who's this?" guys from Facebook and hid those negative persons.

It didn't take more than one day that I felt huge relief because I didn't need to look at those "boohoo my life sucks" statuses! I really, really, really recommend this for all of you.


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Be Positive

So first of all, I should probably tell something about me so you can see what kind of person is writing here.

I'm from Finland. Yes, that cold cold place where everyone is kind of grumpy and doesn't want to talk about anything else than "How's weather?". So it's pretty hard try to try to get someone on a good mood if she/he doesn't want to talk to you about anything.

You know the thrill where neighbors know "everything" about you, you know "everything" about them just by looking as how they live (via window of course). But, when you ask them directly.. Hah, I know. And this isn't really positive, right?

So I moved to other city couples of years ago along with my fiance. We're talking about a lot of miles between my current living spot and my hometown so I was a bit scared. At that point I still was very positive about getting new friends and getting a new beginning in this new town.. So I started to look for job in this new place and got one. Yeah!

But what did my friends do when I told them? Almost all said "This will never work" "I'll give that a year and then she's back" "Why would anyone be that stupid?" "Well good luck for you trying to survive there..."

Like WHAT? Well needless to say, I wasn't really positive after that. I was actually very depressed to move, as I did not have any friends here and all my hometown friends were like that.

So those couple of years went, I got some friends from here but mostly all of them turned their back on me. You know that moment, when you meet someone and you're both like "oh I hate this city I have no friends let's be friends!" and after a while you realize the reason he/she didn't have friends was because he/she is a moron, and nobody warned you before hands. Yeaaap, and multiply that like thousand times and you have my life story. People even tried to get me and my husband not to get married!

So I was a blanket. That person who always was there to loan money, help out ect.. But just because I  was craving for attention clearly by the wrong way.

So I got really depressed. I stayed only in home. Nothing more. I didn't want to get out of that door. My husbands work obligates him to be a lot away from home, so instead of going to market to get some food, I just tried to survive with some leftovers and macaronis from cabinets. Obviously, this isn't a way of life.

Well couple of years went like that and then this sense came back to my head. I need to do something.
Remember earlier as I told my long term friend called me?
He lives in my home town. Well as I had that thinking stick to my head, that I don't need anyone from my before life, it isn't too hard to realize why I didn't want to work with him or why didn't I believe in myself.

But this is true, he was mine - ours - turning point.

Well I didn't start to work with him - yet - but my husband did. And as they started to do business and I stood by my husband (of course) I realized how sad this person felt. This person who I love with all my heart, with my own depression I didn't realize he's so deep in it.

So the turning point? Yes, positive people. But also, I wanted to help my husband. I wanted him to success on what ever he's going to do. And if I'm negative, he will be negative, and it won't work.

So, lesson today;

BE POSITIVE, SO POSITIVE THINGS CAN HAPPEN TO YOU.

YOU CAN DO IT!

I know how hard it is to stick to being motivated, as I had some setbacks in my life too.

So lately I have been thinking that what should I do to be happier, to be successful, to provide good future to my family.

As I had been really thinking this for a long time, I mean for a REALLY long time.. It was about a time to something really happen. So what happened that made me think this?

I met my long term friend for a cup of coffee. He offered me a job, but I didn't take it. I needed it, but I didn't take it. Why? Because I was so negative by the time. I only thought, that I will never success or I will lose my money, time, husband.. Time wasn't right for me to do business with this guy.

Well, time passed and we didn't really connect. But one day he called again to ask me and my husband to meet him. So we went and he cooked some nice food for us (Spaghetti Bolognese btw, and it was GOOD.) and we talked about real things in life. Not about money, not about how unhealthy we feel.. Just some positive, nice things that has happened in our lives.

That was the turning point of my life.

I realized, that to be positive, I need to see positive people. I can't co-up with my life if the only people beside me is negative!

There started my journey to be a better, positive person, and that's the reason I started to write this blog.

This is one of my ways to help others to do the same.

I hope you will start to follow my roads to success and learn something yourself too. So please click subscribe and feel free to share this. :)