Seeing old friend

Have you seen that old pics -challenge in Facebook? That one where you should dig out some pictures from 15 years back.

I'm not saying you should do it (I didn't actually), but I would strongly suggest you to find those old pictures just to watch and see.

I do this about once a year, I just look at old photos where I  am with friends and family. Those are just heartwarming!

But there's another catch. How many of those people you don't see anymore? You used to be besties, and now you haven't seen in like ten years?

Maybe it would be a good time to give your friend a call just to ask how is he/she doing?
If you don't have a phone number, you probably can find it from call service, or try to find that friend from Facebook/Twitter.. I'm pretty sure you could find that person somehow.

Just hearing an old friends voice is a great thing but if you actually can manage to see each other.. Wow! That would be just great, wouldn't it?

What you got to lose? You can see a long term friend, find out how he/she is, you get to socialize yourself and talk to someone who probably is really interested to hear how are you doing.
You'll be surprised to hear how much good you have in your life when you talk about them aloud.
And when you talk about them - someone is really interested and hopes good for you, you'll get a new boost to do what you love.

Like me, when I'm writing. There is moments when this feels more of work than a hobby, but when new people see my blog and my writings, or I talk about them to my old friends, they are thrilled about this and tells me that I do a wonderful job. And I get a new boost to write more and more and more.

Today, as I post this, it's saturday. You probably have plenty of time to take that call.
There's no downside. Just do it.

Alcohol is one devil

Going with the theme with last post.. Healthy. But this time it's alcohol.

YEEEP, the easiest way to try to forget all of those nasty things in your day (or week), go have some fun with friends and drink a lot of booze.
And if you're really in to it deep, you don't even need your friends, you'll just stay home - alone - and think about your miserable life and everyone who "really really hates you".

Then at the certain point you just take your phone, call them all f**krs, tell them how much you hate them because "I'm so sure you hate me too". Text your ex-girlfriend/boyfriend and beg her/him take you back.

So.. How did it go?

The very next day when you wake up from your couch, you can't just stop thinking about all those phone calls and text messages you did. You moralize yourself to be the bad person in your life, and you don't have a meaning. Sounds familiar? Or if not, do you know someone who is like this?

Here's something to read for both of you.

 The person who does this, is usually somewhat depressed or really stressed out from work/relationship/something in his/hers life. That person really don't see those good things in life, even if he/she wants to.

There's always something in other persons life, that you can't know about. Respect it. (Tweet it) 

 That person also don't necessary notice his/hers acting and for that reason acts like an .. well, you know.

When reading this, if you can identify yourself, maybe you should stop for a while, just take some deep breaths and consider changing your way of life.

Because, alcohol really isn't the answer to your problems. More like probably making some new ones on the way.
When drinking even one beer, your body goes in to certain kind of mode, and just a one night sleep doesn't really fix it. It takes couple of nights to get your body back to normal mode after just one beer.
Don't believe me? Try it. Be sober for a week, and then tell me are you..
..thinking more of what ever you are doing
..smiling more
..waking up easier
..more productive than earlier
..less anxious about things you normally would have been really stressed out

I can tell this, because I've been there the worst way. I'm not saying I have totally left alcohol out of my life, but I have decreased it a lot because I saw what it did to me.
I'm not as much tired as I used to be, I have more power to do my work and I feel healthier. And if you feel healthier, it totally helps you to be more positive in life. And think about those positive things and do all those lists and act more kind to people - and TO YOURSELF.
One of the best things I noticed, was that I was "losing" all those friends who wasted their life only to party and drink. We're adulds, so I personally think that we should be able to see our friends without some kind of excuse, just to say hi. But, as I was losing those who didn't want to see me without drinking, I was getting new friends who appreciated my new lifestyle. And I'm so much happier now.

Are you the friend who gets those calls? What ever you do, don't remind that broken person about those calls or texts. It only takes him/her deeper in mud because he/she is already hating himself about those, and your not helping when bringing those back to table.
What you can do, you can be a friend. Call or text for some other reason. Ask to go out for a movie, cup of coffee, to shopping.. Anything that could cheer up your friends mind.
On weekends, ask your friend to come to eat or do something fun without alcohol.
The first couple of months at least, don't talk about the alcohol issue. Because probably your friend is going to go on denial, and never answer your phone calls again and he/she is back in mud.. I know this sounds hard friendship, but trust me, that person will thank you for saving his/hers life.

Your friends isn't an a-hole on purpose. He/She doesn't just see the better life yet. Show it to him/her.

So this came out a bit long post, and I just wrote from my heart but I hope that I reached even one person with this.
If you have a problem, it's time to change.
If you have a friend with an issue, help him.


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Eat healthier

Most of the things that we choose to do daily effects how we feel and how we interact, how we do our jobs.. But there's more in that.

So you're getting more positive on the inside, but. Are you still tired? Do you still feel like you don't get to be the person you want to be? Rolling in bed by nights?

There might be another reason than you being negative. And that's your eating habits.

Eating healthier and regularly really helps you to be more perky and gives you a boost to carry on in work and other life situations.

Here's my advice. For a week, look what you eat and how regularly. Do you skip breakfast? Or lunch?
Remember to eat, but not healthy enough? Because I can tell you, pizza ain't great lunch.. It's tasty, but not good for your health. ;)

My breakfast is usually oatmeal or smoothie or fruits.. or all of them! Depends on day.
Besides that eating healthy, do you take any extra vitamins or omega 3 ? Usually (especially during winter) human needs more C and Omega than they get from their food. Did you know, that almost only thing where you get Omega 3 is in fish? And how much you should eat fish to get enough... That's so much that you couldn't do that, trust me.

But changing even some little things in your daily eating you should get some results. And what's even better, it helps maintain normal weight so if you have some kind of problems with weight (too much too less), good healthy food will help you to get in better weight.

But as for recepies, I'm writing a book about them so you can see them later!


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5 things to be grateful -challenge

#GratitudeChallenge2015

Here Are The Rules:

• You have 72 hours to accept the challenge when you are nominated.

• Write or say 5 things you are grateful for on any social media platform (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Blog, or anywhere)

• Display a picture of gratitude. Any picture of something simple that makes (or made) you smile.

• Nominate 5 other people in your circle, but make sure to let them know immediately.

I took this from diyjahn.com  , just because I feel like these kind of things belongs to this blog. And this is suppose to be a little sneak a peek to what kind of thing you can be grateful. Yours can be really different from this one but it doesn't matter. What matters, is that you think of it.

So. Here it goes.

1. Husband.

This is something that I still can't understand; I found a yin to my yang, a person who REALLY loves me as I am. Even at my worst, like this weekend... I was too lazy to do even something to eat, and he did food for me.
Which takes me to...

2. Odd Finnish food.

I would never survive without Finnish salty liquorice or rye bread. (And I love those faces when someone who doesn't know what these are, tries them out.)

3. My lovely home

I have a roof over my head, it's warm inside, I have running water and no one has shut down our electricity. And actually, it's kind of pretty too.

4. Snow during winter

Ok, not yet, because as I told it has been way too long fall this year, but still I can't wait to see those first little snowflakes falling down to ground..

5. My best friends

The best of the best in category of my friends .. It's way too long distance between us. And it makes me cry sometimes, but when I see them, it's like heaven down on earth. And just having a little time with them takes me trough a lot of bad times and gives me strength. And actually I'm smiling right now, just thinking these loved ones of mine. YOU'RE THE BEST.

Be the one

So I'm a huge fan of The Simpsons. I mean a HUGE fan, I can't survive a day without even one The Simpsons episode.
Theres plenty of reasons why I love it, and one of them is the educational side. You can think what you want but really often there is a good message in episode.

Today I'm gonna talk about one particular episode where Bart and Lisa is going to military school (The secret war of Lisa Simpson).

So why this episode? Lisa want's to do something thats not normal in their world (keep in mind it's old episode), and even the principal of that school is a little against it ("Let me make this clear.. You're a girl?").
But still, she goes there and tries her best.

Even Bart turns his back for her for a while.. But here's the good side. The side that I wanted you to think. He came back for her, helped her and when he realized Lisa is really needing a good helping friend (brother), he stands up for her and encourages her to go thru that last task of theirs - the Eliminator.

In our own lives this "Eliminator" could be anything. Some job relied project, losing weight, quitting smoking.. Anything. And we need at least one person who can stand beside us.

Today as I watched that episode of The Simpsons, I thought that it looks like most of ours lives. Theres plenty of those people who will always be yelling "YOU'RE GONNA FAIL!" and just one or two who will be beside you. You just need to see them from the crowd.

And if you're that person, who sees someone who really needs some encourage, DO IT. Help that person to stand to his/hers own feet, and make that person feel LOVED. Good things happen to good people. Good things happen to good people, tweet it.

If you're the one who needs a friend, take a deep breath, think about those moments in past couple of months/days/years. Who has always been there, even if you didn't see it at the moment? Trust me, there's always someone who is beside you, even if you don't belive it.

YOU CAN DO IT.


Oh, and in case you haven't seen that particular episode or want to see a little sneek a peek to Lisas war, here's a clip.

You can do it!

Sometimes there's just days that you can't get yourself up. You just lie in your bed thinking, that everything you have done is wrong and you are worthless.

No you're not.

Whatever it is what you're suppose to do, just DO it. Just get up on your feet, and start doing!

There's no one else in this world that could do them for you, so just do them yourself! If you don't know where to start, make a list.

Make a list about those tasks that you need to do to get to your goal. What is those steps to do to get to the grand price? Maybe it's calling to that long term friend, maybe it's starting running.. Whatever those things are, write them down.

Put the list somewhere where you can see it every day. In fridge door, toilet mirror, bedroom .. You name it.

Then just start doing. What is the first thing to do? Do it. Reward yourself for doing it. Because your AWESOME for doing something that you are not used to do!

Then do the second thing. And third. If you can't do these things in one day, it's ok. Some things just need more time, but if those tasks are easy (like cleaning the whole house), it's better to do them right now.

You CAN do it! You CAN manage your life, you CAN reach your goals, you CAN BE THE BEST. (tweet it!)

Now start doing!

How to get a positive morning routine

So, I live in Finland. Most of you guys probably know how is winter time in here (if you don't know, Google it).

It's so dark, cold and windy. And if fall is longer than normal (like this year) we don't even get snow to brighten our day. And that's the reason it's easy to get depressed, get some sick days from work and cry your eyes out aaaaaaaand the circle is done.

This in mind I have improved my daily routines to next level.

 Couple of these thing I have written earlier, but as I usually say, repetition is the mother of learning.

 First of all at the morning when I wake up I smile and tell to myself "This is going to be a great day!" . If I wake up before alarm, I think "Wow I got this much time more to do my morning routines" or if I oversleep a little I think "Well at least I got some sleep so I don't feel so tired."

Then when I have my first cup of coffee in my hands, I think of 5 things which I can be thankful for. It doesn't matter if you don't get five at first time (because you're probably a little unmotivated at the moment) but it's pretty great feeling when you realize that you can think of MORE than five! And that's progress let me tell you that! :)

And after some time (could be months, it depends on what's your starting point) you don't even have to think about thinking those things because you do it subconscious every morning.

You should start with this and when this starts to feel normal to you, you can start doing some other exercises too (which I will tell you later).

Because if you start your day positive, it usually will be positive till next morning.

So, starting from tomorrow. First thing in the morning, think positive, and be thankful for 5 things in your life.

What makes you negative?

When you're trying to make your life more positive, try to think about those things that makes it negative.

So for example, there's a friend you see weekly or read his/hers posts on Facebook, chat with him/her and every time he/she gets you upset. No matter what you try to say, everything is a "No." for him/her and he/she always finds a way to say something negative.
These guys usually are those friends of Facebook etc who only post negative comments on anyones status.
Ditch them. Or if you can't/won't totally throw them away from your life, at least hide them from your feed. Stop calling them, they usually get the point.

You really don't need those guys in your life! If they have nothing nice ever say to you, don't be with them! And usually these same guys are the ones who only call you when they need something, do you really want to be that guy who always gets called when money/favor are needed?

And, this really culminates to this.. BE POSITIVE. Why? Let me show you thru a picture.

So. Let's begin with that negative attitude of yours in upper left corner. You are negative, you attract negative people. And a human being is going to be just like his surrounding people are..
Try to be that positive person without changing anything else. Don't change your friends or anything, just be positive. Pretty tough, hu? Yes, I know. I tried.
The truth is, that if everyone who is surrounding you, is negative, you will be too. You can't escape it, if you won't change anything. 

BUT. When you are surrounded with positive people, you can be positive and you will encourage others on what they do! Well isn't that nice? Again; positive things happen to positive people. And thats straight way up.

Didn't yet delete that really negative person from Facebook? Do it now. Start your new positive life, step by step. Not sure about some of the people? Just hide them from your news feed.

It's kind of a small step, but it's something. If you dare, you can 'delete' some of those negative persons from your normal life too, like deleting numbers or just decide "I'm not going to call him/her, until he/she changes his/her attitude."

Simply clever! I can admit, that within first weeks I didn't delete anyones number. I just deleted couple of "who's this?" guys from Facebook and hid those negative persons.

It didn't take more than one day that I felt huge relief because I didn't need to look at those "boohoo my life sucks" statuses! I really, really, really recommend this for all of you.


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4 points you should know to be a positive person

So now you know something about me and my past. I know you're probably wondering "wheres the tips?"

Don't worry, I'll give them to you one by one. OR as a list (like now.)

So when I was struggling with my life and was trying to think some ways to help my husband (and me on the side) to be better persons, I started to read.

1. Read a lot

I went to these conventions and happenings where every successful person kept saying "Readers are leaders." So, I started to read. A lot.

First it doesn't matter what you read, it's more of the idea of reading. Well of course if you just read Cosmopolitan or Donald Duck or something like that it won't help you but if you concentrate to some good novelty or what's even better, for life changing books, I bet you feel better.
Me for example, I find Stephen Kings books good to read. They are fiction, but they're wrote in good way and I need to use my brains as I read. (So thanks, Stephen!)

2. Think positive

If you are a negative person, negative things will happen to you. That's just a thing that no one can deny. And if you think you can.. Maybe it's time for you to change your point of view?

So in the morning when I wake up, my first thought is "This day will be awesome!" It usually is.

  3. Take time to yourself

I usually take 1 hour in the morning for my self to think what should I do next. Do this as you think it would be easiest for you. It can be a wakeup 1 hour earlier than normally so your family is still a sleep. I usually do some lists about "tasks for today" or "what things should change".
PS. I will do a post about these things separately.

4. Enjoy those little things

Yes, I know it's a cliché, BUT.. Think it this way; "Oh what a horrible morning, I overslept like ten minutes and now I can't brew coffee at home and now I need to go to ** to eat my breakfast..." OR "So ok, I overslept today for 10minutes and YES , it's time for my FAVORITE latte for that cute little cafeteria! Ohh and maybe a bagel.."

Which one is you ? Which one you prefer?



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YOU CAN DO IT!

I know how hard it is to stick to being motivated, as I had some setbacks in my life too.

So lately I have been thinking that what should I do to be happier, to be successful, to provide good future to my family.

As I had been really thinking this for a long time, I mean for a REALLY long time.. It was about a time to something really happen. So what happened that made me think this?

I met my long term friend for a cup of coffee. He offered me a job, but I didn't take it. I needed it, but I didn't take it. Why? Because I was so negative by the time. I only thought, that I will never success or I will lose my money, time, husband.. Time wasn't right for me to do business with this guy.

Well, time passed and we didn't really connect. But one day he called again to ask me and my husband to meet him. So we went and he cooked some nice food for us (Spaghetti Bolognese btw, and it was GOOD.) and we talked about real things in life. Not about money, not about how unhealthy we feel.. Just some positive, nice things that has happened in our lives.

That was the turning point of my life.

I realized, that to be positive, I need to see positive people. I can't co-up with my life if the only people beside me is negative!

There started my journey to be a better, positive person, and that's the reason I started to write this blog.

This is one of my ways to help others to do the same.

I hope you will start to follow my roads to success and learn something yourself too. So please click subscribe and feel free to share this. :)