Be the one

So I'm a huge fan of The Simpsons. I mean a HUGE fan, I can't survive a day without even one The Simpsons episode.
Theres plenty of reasons why I love it, and one of them is the educational side. You can think what you want but really often there is a good message in episode.

Today I'm gonna talk about one particular episode where Bart and Lisa is going to military school (The secret war of Lisa Simpson).

So why this episode? Lisa want's to do something thats not normal in their world (keep in mind it's old episode), and even the principal of that school is a little against it ("Let me make this clear.. You're a girl?").
But still, she goes there and tries her best.

Even Bart turns his back for her for a while.. But here's the good side. The side that I wanted you to think. He came back for her, helped her and when he realized Lisa is really needing a good helping friend (brother), he stands up for her and encourages her to go thru that last task of theirs - the Eliminator.

In our own lives this "Eliminator" could be anything. Some job relied project, losing weight, quitting smoking.. Anything. And we need at least one person who can stand beside us.

Today as I watched that episode of The Simpsons, I thought that it looks like most of ours lives. Theres plenty of those people who will always be yelling "YOU'RE GONNA FAIL!" and just one or two who will be beside you. You just need to see them from the crowd.

And if you're that person, who sees someone who really needs some encourage, DO IT. Help that person to stand to his/hers own feet, and make that person feel LOVED. Good things happen to good people. Good things happen to good people, tweet it.

If you're the one who needs a friend, take a deep breath, think about those moments in past couple of months/days/years. Who has always been there, even if you didn't see it at the moment? Trust me, there's always someone who is beside you, even if you don't belive it.

YOU CAN DO IT.


Oh, and in case you haven't seen that particular episode or want to see a little sneek a peek to Lisas war, here's a clip.

4 points you should know to be a positive person

So now you know something about me and my past. I know you're probably wondering "wheres the tips?"

Don't worry, I'll give them to you one by one. OR as a list (like now.)

So when I was struggling with my life and was trying to think some ways to help my husband (and me on the side) to be better persons, I started to read.

1. Read a lot

I went to these conventions and happenings where every successful person kept saying "Readers are leaders." So, I started to read. A lot.

First it doesn't matter what you read, it's more of the idea of reading. Well of course if you just read Cosmopolitan or Donald Duck or something like that it won't help you but if you concentrate to some good novelty or what's even better, for life changing books, I bet you feel better.
Me for example, I find Stephen Kings books good to read. They are fiction, but they're wrote in good way and I need to use my brains as I read. (So thanks, Stephen!)

2. Think positive

If you are a negative person, negative things will happen to you. That's just a thing that no one can deny. And if you think you can.. Maybe it's time for you to change your point of view?

So in the morning when I wake up, my first thought is "This day will be awesome!" It usually is.

  3. Take time to yourself

I usually take 1 hour in the morning for my self to think what should I do next. Do this as you think it would be easiest for you. It can be a wakeup 1 hour earlier than normally so your family is still a sleep. I usually do some lists about "tasks for today" or "what things should change".
PS. I will do a post about these things separately.

4. Enjoy those little things

Yes, I know it's a cliché, BUT.. Think it this way; "Oh what a horrible morning, I overslept like ten minutes and now I can't brew coffee at home and now I need to go to ** to eat my breakfast..." OR "So ok, I overslept today for 10minutes and YES , it's time for my FAVORITE latte for that cute little cafeteria! Ohh and maybe a bagel.."

Which one is you ? Which one you prefer?



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Be Positive

So first of all, I should probably tell something about me so you can see what kind of person is writing here.

I'm from Finland. Yes, that cold cold place where everyone is kind of grumpy and doesn't want to talk about anything else than "How's weather?". So it's pretty hard try to try to get someone on a good mood if she/he doesn't want to talk to you about anything.

You know the thrill where neighbors know "everything" about you, you know "everything" about them just by looking as how they live (via window of course). But, when you ask them directly.. Hah, I know. And this isn't really positive, right?

So I moved to other city couples of years ago along with my fiance. We're talking about a lot of miles between my current living spot and my hometown so I was a bit scared. At that point I still was very positive about getting new friends and getting a new beginning in this new town.. So I started to look for job in this new place and got one. Yeah!

But what did my friends do when I told them? Almost all said "This will never work" "I'll give that a year and then she's back" "Why would anyone be that stupid?" "Well good luck for you trying to survive there..."

Like WHAT? Well needless to say, I wasn't really positive after that. I was actually very depressed to move, as I did not have any friends here and all my hometown friends were like that.

So those couple of years went, I got some friends from here but mostly all of them turned their back on me. You know that moment, when you meet someone and you're both like "oh I hate this city I have no friends let's be friends!" and after a while you realize the reason he/she didn't have friends was because he/she is a moron, and nobody warned you before hands. Yeaaap, and multiply that like thousand times and you have my life story. People even tried to get me and my husband not to get married!

So I was a blanket. That person who always was there to loan money, help out ect.. But just because I  was craving for attention clearly by the wrong way.

So I got really depressed. I stayed only in home. Nothing more. I didn't want to get out of that door. My husbands work obligates him to be a lot away from home, so instead of going to market to get some food, I just tried to survive with some leftovers and macaronis from cabinets. Obviously, this isn't a way of life.

Well couple of years went like that and then this sense came back to my head. I need to do something.
Remember earlier as I told my long term friend called me?
He lives in my home town. Well as I had that thinking stick to my head, that I don't need anyone from my before life, it isn't too hard to realize why I didn't want to work with him or why didn't I believe in myself.

But this is true, he was mine - ours - turning point.

Well I didn't start to work with him - yet - but my husband did. And as they started to do business and I stood by my husband (of course) I realized how sad this person felt. This person who I love with all my heart, with my own depression I didn't realize he's so deep in it.

So the turning point? Yes, positive people. But also, I wanted to help my husband. I wanted him to success on what ever he's going to do. And if I'm negative, he will be negative, and it won't work.

So, lesson today;

BE POSITIVE, SO POSITIVE THINGS CAN HAPPEN TO YOU.

YOU CAN DO IT!

I know how hard it is to stick to being motivated, as I had some setbacks in my life too.

So lately I have been thinking that what should I do to be happier, to be successful, to provide good future to my family.

As I had been really thinking this for a long time, I mean for a REALLY long time.. It was about a time to something really happen. So what happened that made me think this?

I met my long term friend for a cup of coffee. He offered me a job, but I didn't take it. I needed it, but I didn't take it. Why? Because I was so negative by the time. I only thought, that I will never success or I will lose my money, time, husband.. Time wasn't right for me to do business with this guy.

Well, time passed and we didn't really connect. But one day he called again to ask me and my husband to meet him. So we went and he cooked some nice food for us (Spaghetti Bolognese btw, and it was GOOD.) and we talked about real things in life. Not about money, not about how unhealthy we feel.. Just some positive, nice things that has happened in our lives.

That was the turning point of my life.

I realized, that to be positive, I need to see positive people. I can't co-up with my life if the only people beside me is negative!

There started my journey to be a better, positive person, and that's the reason I started to write this blog.

This is one of my ways to help others to do the same.

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